In spite of repeatedly assuring me, a friend failed to keep her promise for a favour I’d requested. After two months of follow up, she finally confessed to her inability to help. A moment of annoyance flared up, subsided by being reminded that my friend always had a tough time refusing requests for help. Instead of being dodged, what I expected was straight-forwardness. Choosing to not let petty things get in the way, my text to her was, “Through this God’s teaching you to tell ‘No’ sooner if you can’t help, instead of dilly-dallying. This way you don’t put yourself or others through needless stress. I learnt from this experience too”. She responded positively. This incident taught me to grasp lessons from experiences and discard the unpleasantness out of it. When we stop getting in the way of our evolution incidents can be viewed by us from a higher tangent, as they’re happening. To frown, complaint, stay disappointed or have an attitude of tit-for-tat, is like hoarding dirt. Learn the lesson, drop the issue.