Learn to Pick Yourself Up - Anupa Gnanakan

I’m Anupa Gnanakan, a total Bangalore girl who loves life, family, food, music, reading and my faith. A proud mother of 3 children and happy wife of a supportive husband, life hasn’t always been this easy. All I can say is that, through all the ups and downs, I have learned to look at life positively, knowing that there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

They say that marriage is every girl’s dream. But my fairy tale ended way too soon, leaving me with 2 young daughters to raise. With no one taking the blame for the failed marriage, I ventured into life as a single mum. I was blessed to have the love and support of my parents, who stood by me through all my mistakes.

I am a teacher by profession. Starting off as a Montessori trained teacher, I went on to specialise in teaching children with special needs. There were many openings in this field and I was blessed to get a good job in a top school in Bangalore. Being a teacher also has its perks when it comes to children’s education, so my children went wherever I went. This was also a good thing because I was able to have stability in my career, not wanting to move my children around too much.

Being a single mum, and having to face various challenges, especially socially, made me more receptive and tolerant as a teacher. I was able to pick up signs of emotional struggles from my students, I was patient with them, I wasn’t judgmental, I could understand them better, and this led me to be able to help them effectively. This was really helpful, especially with the growing number of single parents in Bangalore.

All the while, my own children had their own set of struggles, but we ploughed through. We learned how to be strong together, how to love each other unconditionally, how to support one another, how to be aware of each other’s needs, how to forgive and accept one another. There were good days and bad days. But we were growing stronger every day, both as individuals and as a broken family.

During this journey is when I met my husband, a friend of a friend, and a fellow teacher. Younger than me, never having been married before, part of a traditional family, we fought all the odds, got the acceptance from our parents, and got married. I had always believed that the right person would come along, someone who would accept me for who I am, and not what I’ve done, and who would love my children like his own. I am grateful to God for this answer to my prayer.